| On rare occasions, when a well-meaning
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| | serving as a sounding board and prayer
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| Christian discovers that I prefer home
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| | partner for those in ministry - even
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| churches to traditional denominational
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| | online. Just who can these men and women
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| gatherings and am not affiliated with any
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| | talk to for seeking wise counsel?BREAKING
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| particular group - although I'm asked to
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| | OUT IS HARD TO DOLeaving ministry is hard
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| minister in many - it has happened that
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| | to do, and those who have stepped down
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| their discovery is met with a negative
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| | from the pastoral role admit "there are
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| response, assuming I must have been hurt
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| | at least parts of ministry" that they
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| and require a ministerial
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| | miss. According to the study: "Their
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| tourniquet.Truth is, just as it is with
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| | accounts were remarkably consistent: they
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| so many others, yes, I was hurt. But
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| | most missed leading worship and being a
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| Jesus, my Redeemer and Healer, ministered
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| | meaningful part of people's lives." Those
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| to me, bound up my wounds and turned me
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| | who were forced to leave the ministry for
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| loose on the enemy. The Father has used
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| | another vocation under circumstances not
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| certain negative, manmade circumstances
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| | of their own choosing, or who felt that
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| over the years to get me to recognize
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| | they had in some way been mistreated,
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| that what I was calling "The Church" had
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| | mourned the job loss most intensely. The
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| no semblance to anything described within
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| | researchers mentioned that several of
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| the pages of Scripture, nor does it bare
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| | their interviews were interrupted when
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| any resemblance to the Church in the
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| | ministers broke down in tears. Former
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| third world, the persecuted corners of
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| | pastors who were content with their new
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| the Earth - the ONLY places on the planet
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| | vocational setting also told of their
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| where Christianity is actually thriving,
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| | love for local church ministry.One issue
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| by the way. In his multi-faceted,
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| | that concerns me is the authors'
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| multi-purposeful, loving way, God also
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| | assumption that friendship among pastors,
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| used the situations in which I had been
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| | though important, is inherently limited
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| placed to help me realize a few things
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| | because "ministers feel unavoidable
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| about myself. Perhaps, as you read this
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| | competition with each other, which gets
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| message, you may realize a few of those
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| | in the way of forming healthy support
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| things about yourself as well.I was once
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| | groups." In my own hometown, where I
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| the Singles Pastor of a church with
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| | serve as the Marketing guru for the local
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| nearly 3,000 people on the role. One
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| | Chamber of Commerce, many of the 80+
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| outdoor event we held had hundreds of
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| | ministries in town have joined our ranks.
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| singles attend. I baptized 16 in a river
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| | It's wonderful to see these men and women
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| that cool October day. I left that church
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| | serving alongside in their matching
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| after 5 years with a much-beloved couple
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| | "Ambassador" blazers or serving on
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| who felt led to start a House Church. We
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| | committees together or chatting and
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| grew so fast we felt compelled to find a
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| | laughing at a mixer.Another opportunity
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| building and establish "Church as usual,"
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| | in which many churches participate is
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| in accordance with the prescribed methods
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| | something we call "Operation: Jesus." So
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| we had all been taught. We grew to 300 in
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| | far, pastors and people from numerous
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| no time. It lasted eight years. I served
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| | churches have co-mingled and gone out in
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| there as the Assistant Pastor and left
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| | teams to canvas the county and pray at
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| after seven years when I was asked to
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| | people's doorsteps. To date, after three
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| step down from serving in the thriving
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| | "missions," we've knocked on 30,000
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| Children's ministry. I won't elaborate,
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| | doors. In my last outing, my team
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| but it was political. I had thirty
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| | consisted of a Baptist preacher of a
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| volunteers serving with me and the kids
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| | church of 300, a Disciples of Christ
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| were being trained to minister and were
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| | youth minister, a Baptist nurse, two
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| active in all capacities of Church-Life
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| | House Churchers, and an Assemblies of God
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| from ushers to musicians. They LOVED
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| | woman. I recall speaking with the
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| outreaches in the poorest of
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| | secretary of the Lutheran church who
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| neighborhoods, manning the puppet shows,
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| | reported that she had the most memorable
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| passing out groceries and praying
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| | time, along with her daughter, knocking
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| door-to-door. Finally, I moved two hours
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| | and praying alongside the pastor's wife
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| south to be nearer to my family. Within a
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| | from the Assemblies of God and her
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| year after I left, the church closed its
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| | daughter. It's quite disarming when
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| doors. There were less than twenty
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| | individuals from different churches knock
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| attending by then, I was told. My
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| | on a door to pray. Why? Obviously, they
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| ministry, health, family and personal
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| | aren't recruiting.I believe such
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| life have flourished ever since.These
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| | relationships may be the key to
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| days, I am an avid House Churcher who,
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| | sustaining pastors over time and not
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| through relationships and the leading of
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| | simply during crises. The study says:
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| the Holy Spirit, find myself being
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| | "...it is the kind of collegiality that
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| invited to speak to Christians of many
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| | is crucial to the cultivation of
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| denominations in a variety of settings.
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| | self-knowledge, relational intelligence,
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| In our House Church, we have seen
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| | the capacity to remain dynamically
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| miracles, deliverances, and lives changed
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| | engaged with one's work and the ability
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| regularly. Something I attribute to one
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| | to identify and negotiate conflict, all
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| thing: we love each other. There is unity
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| | of which are relevant to preventing the
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| there and it commands a blessing from on
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| | dynamics that cause clergy to leave
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| high.THE SMITING OF THE SHEPHERDWhy do
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| | pastoral ministry." Such interaction
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| pastors leave the ministry? A research
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| | produces unity and with unity comes
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| paper by Dean Hoge and Jacqueline Wenger
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| | power.Where there is disunity, we are
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| reveal several main reasons:(1)
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| | essentially snake food.Hoge also authored
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| preference for another form of ministry
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| | a book on the Roman Catholic clergy, The
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| (2) the need to care for children or
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| | First Five Years of the Priesthood, in
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| family
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| | which he writes that one of the most
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| (3) conflict in the congregation
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| | important findings of his research was
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| (4) conflict with denominational leaders
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| | that priests left the ministry because
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|
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| | they "felt lonely and unappreciated."
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| (5) burnout or discouragement
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| | Loneliness was the one factor always
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| (6) sexual misconduct
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| | present among the various reasons priests
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| (7) and divorce or marital problems.Two
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| | resigned in their early years of
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| of these factors are especially
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| | ministry. Hoge claims that when
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| important: conflict and a preference for
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| | loneliness "is absent, resignation from
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| specialized ministry. A close third is
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| | the priesthood is unlikely. Whether a
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| the experience of burnout,
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| | priest is heterosexual or homosexual, in
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| discouragement, stress and overwork.Their
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| | love or not, it will not drive him to
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| study is part of the larger Pulpit and
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| | resign unless at the same time he feels
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| Pew research project on the state of
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| | lonely or unappreciated."This same
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| pastoral ministry, based at Duke Divinity
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| | dynamic appears to be present among
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| School, funded by the Lilly Endowment.
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| | Protestant clergy.A PASTOR'S TESTIMONYAn
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| The authors conducted extensive
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| | article by Bill Hull, Leadership Journal,
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| interviews with clergymen and women who
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| | Summer 2005, echoes similar sentiments.
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| have left Protestant church ministry,
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| | Hull pastored 20 years and is the founder
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| voluntarily or involuntarily, and with
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| | of T-Net International, a ministry
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| denominational leaders from five
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| | devoted to transforming churches into
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| denominations including the Assemblies of
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| | disciple-making communities. He's an
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| God, the Evangelical Lutheran Church in
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| | author who, as a minister, had become
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| America, the Lutheran Church-Missouri
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| | frustrated by his perceived
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| Synod, the Presbyterian Church (U.S.A.)
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| | ineffectiveness as it pertained to the
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| and the United Methodist Church. Another
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| | Great Commission in light of the Doctrine
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| heart-wrenching book that I read years
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| | of Jesus. Something HAD to change.He
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| ago, Shattered Vows, is an expose' on
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| | discovered that "something" was
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| Catholic priests and why they leave their
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| | himself.He writes, "We had just
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| callings. The reasons are similar to
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| | commissioned 83 new members. It was a
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| their Protestant counterparts, as I
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| | proud moment. The newly initiated throng
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| recall.Hoge and Wenger learned that, in
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| | made their way off the platform, while I
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| many denominations, a standard of
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| | moved closer to the congregation to begin
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| dependence between clergy and leadership
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| | my sermon."This is great, isn't it?" I
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| is set that is hard to live up to. Also,
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| | began. "But before we get too giddy about
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| things such as greater freedom of choice
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| | new members, let me ask you a question.
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| and the tendency of a minister's spouse
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| | Why should we bring 83 new people into
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| to choose to work outside the home have
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| | something that isn't working?" He
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| made the desired pastoral model
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| | continued, too far along to turn back
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| increasingly hard to find. The study
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| | now, "Something is wrong," he said. "It
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| reveals: "the more a pastor's career is
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| | has been tormenting me for several years.
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| determined by his or her denomination,
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| | All the formulas, strategic planning,
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| the more conflict that pastor will
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| | mission statements and visionary sermons
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| potentially feel with denominational
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| | are not making disciples."Bill was being
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| leaders."Conflict with church leadership
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| | tormented by these truths. Where was the
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| looms large. The #1 conflict issues cited
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| | personal transformation after all the
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| by pastors who left ministry were:(1)
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| | effort we put into weekend services,
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| pastoral leadership style
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| | Bible studies, small groups, and outreach
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| (2) church finances
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| | events? His 52-life-changing sermons
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| (3) changes in worship style
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| | weren't bearing any fruit. He was stuck
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| (4) staff relationships and
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| | in the same rut that so many pastors find
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| (5) building projects.Organizational and
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| | themselves in, i.e., religious activity
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| interpersonal issues, rather than
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| | without real transformation. He was what
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| doctrinal differences or hot-button
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| | you'd call Successful and Unsatisfied.He
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| issues such as homosexuality, were the
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| | writes, "At age 50 I found myself
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| most likely to motivate ministers to
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| | successful but unsatisfied. I was hooked
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| leave a congregation. The study states:
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| | on results, addicted to recognition, and
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| "Most notable about the main conflicts
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| | a product of my times. I was a
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| experienced by ministers who left parish
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| | get-it-done leader who was ready to lead
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| ministry is their 'everyday,' prosaic
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| | people into the rarified air of religious
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| nature." Hoge and Wenger "came to believe
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| | competition. Like so many pastors, I was
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| that the conflicts most often experienced
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| | addicted to what others thought of
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| by our participants are ones that could
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| | me."Nobody can share Bill's testimony the
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| probably be resolved and in the process
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| | way Bill can. Read on:"As I stood before
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| offer growth experiences for both pastor
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| | the people that morning, I was prepared
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| and congregation."Sadly, isolation and
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| | to pour out my soul, even my desperation.
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| loneliness contributed directly or
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| | I was nearing the end of a three-year
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| indirectly to a pastor's decision to ship
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| | reshaping of my person, and I had morphed
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| out. Of those who left due to sexual
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| | in such a way that I could never go back.
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| misconduct, 75 percent indicated that
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| | Bill Hull, the Disciple Making Pastor (at
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| they were lonely and isolated. In all
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| | least the guy who'd written a book by
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| five denominational groups, the top
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| | that title), had been broken by God."For
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| motivating factors for leaving were the
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| | three years people had been steadily
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| same. Pastors reported:"I felt drained by
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| | leaving our church. It was the most
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| demands."
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| | painful experience of my pastoral life,
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| "I felt lonely and isolated."
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| | and so many times I wanted to run away.
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| "I did not feel supported by
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| | But God spoke to me powerfully one
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| denominational officials."
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| | morning as I lay prostrate on my office
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| "I felt bored and constrained."Hoge and
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| | floor. "Bill, I am going to break you;
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| Wenger discovered one glaring similarity
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| | don't run." I wanted to run, I prayed
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| regarding pastors who have left local
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| | about running, I asked others about
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| church ministry: "These pastors ..., for
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| | finding a better fit (a.k.a. running),
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| whatever reason [were] not part of
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| | but I couldn't bring myself to do
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| ministerial friendship groups or action
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| | it."Most of the people who left the
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| groups."Where intimate relationships are
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| | church hadn't left because of conviction
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| concerned, I've discovered that many
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| | but because of feelings or the opinions
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| pastors have none. Face it, who can they
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| | of friends. Believe it or not, people
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| open up to where they might not become an
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| | don't usually do a lot of research, and
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| item of betraying gossip, perceived as
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| | then act in accordance with biblical
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| weak, or jeopardize their own job? In my
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| | truth, when choosing to leave a church.
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| own life, I find myself repeatedly
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